...As a parent you have authority b/c God calls you to be an authority in your child's life.
You are under God's authority as your child is under yours.
You act at HIS command.
Your duty is not to shape the lives of your children as it pleases you, but as it pleases HIM..
*** i.e. when your child obeys they must know that the reason that they are to obey is not to please YOU, but GOD, because God is His Word commands them to, not just you.
Simmilarly, when they disobey, the greater emphasis must be placed on their disobedience to God, not you.
~Otherwise when our children disobey and we are angry that they did not do what WE wanted , we in essence, are acting just like them, jumping up and down with a pout b/c we didn't get OUR way!!!~
The shepherding role of parenting is to encourage the child to desire to please God, to obey God.
Remember that your children learn of obedience as it is modeled in you. They must see you obeying God-even when it may not make sense to you or sound fun..