Friday, May 8, 2009

more marriage...

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Although i drifted a bit by giving tips on freezers and tans, I want to return to the theme of marriage. With our 5 year anniversary coming up, it has been a topic on my mind. The growth, change of heart and mind that has taken place in this half a decade. I can only pray that the next 2 decades will spike in this continual learning curve!
Our marriage has been transformed this year as God has given me (and Ben) a new awareness of biblical womanhood (and him manhood). We are so thankful to the council of biblical womanhood and manhood website for posting helpful sermons, online books, an endless resource of council for us. We are also thankful to our friends Mike and Kay Simmons, who have guided us to the gospel in all things. Their testimony is amazing...
Here i want to continue sharing the info given to us at our marriage retreat:
When speaking to my husband i need to have a heart that is-
  •  amazed by grace (keenly aware of Christ forgiveness to ME)
  •  humbled by God allowing me to share in this picture of Him and His Bride
  • eager to serve just as Christ was and is
  • understanding that I am limited (not seeing all and hearing all)
  • honest about my own sin 
Great Tip by Besty Riccuchi: "When listening to and speaking with your husband if there is a 'rise' of defense springing up in you-rather than respond, step back, evaluate your own sinfulness and (if needed-which most likely it is) get the plank our of your own eye."

Preaching to myself-the Message


 Philipians 2:5-8Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn't think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status ... Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn't claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion.

Phiipians 4:6-7Don't fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It's wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.

 8-9Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse... Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

Hi friends, this is just what i have been encouraged by these last two days. I have struggled with clinging to my desires, my rights..i have been focusing on the worst, not the best..so this is something that i have been preaching to myself!