Monday, September 27, 2010

LATE beach pictures...

Any of you who have little children and have driven over 3 hours to the beach with screaming kids and lugged all the junk out to the ocean and gone in and out 100 times for 2 opposing nap schedules know that a trip to the beach is no 'trip to the beach'. You come home wanting for a vacation!
Knox staying hydrated
Brennan digging..that is what he did the whole time he was there...
One quick attempt at a family photo..there was a fog on the lens..for some reason, probably sunscreen or water, or slobber...

Here is supper with 6 boys..we had spaghetti. Smart women keep it simple..
Here are the 5 ABSOLUTE messes, Brennan not included, due to his current act of being a mess...ha..
Here are the 4 cousins digging in the sand..yes and Knox eating it...he ate so much it actually came out in his diapers...
more fun..

The last day we were there we had a build-a-bear activity at the resort. Here are the boys hugging theirs..

There were bunk beds in the hall, here are the cousins wrestling on the, they made a tent..
..and had a pillow fight, supervised of course..

Monday, September 20, 2010

the latest

Okay, if you know me well you have probably discerned that this has been a difficult year. And it is in the fire that the dross is burned away-boy do i have some dross! Ha..
So as for our little family we have been on the rocks..this whole year. It has been wonderful at times & if i were to know Paul's floggings & shipwrecks i would probably say it has been close to easy a lot of the times. But i don't know Paul's floggings & shipwrecks, all i know is two children under 2 years old are VERY dependant on a mother. I work to teach them how to do things on their own, don't get me wrong, but there are just a lot of things a 1 &2 yr old can't do alone, so that keeps me more than on my, if you have kept up with it..the stuff with Brennan was awful. Ben, at one point, said that it is like having a child with special needs (which strangely enough-we both thought God had prepared us for but were rudely awakened by our inadequacy in this area).
The latest is we are on the Feingold diet. And if i were 'on it' i would link to a site where you could find out more, not & haven't been for a while..LOng story shorter, last dr visit we talked through a lot of things with a new doctor. This doctor is a member of a former church and has 2 children with the same food intolerance. Brennan is going 6 weeks on stage one of the diet which means no salicilytes, no artificial flavoring or coloring, no food dye (of course), and no preservatives BHT TBHQ and BHA. We have been watching closely and the dr said we would begin to see change immediately which we have..its like that old nursery rhyme. "when he is good he is very very good, but when he is bad-he is horrid"
If you read more about the diet you will see a lot of doctors put children who have been diagnosed ADHD on this diet-red dye and ADHD have been linked forever..but we were fortunate to have had not just behavioral side effects, but physical ones, or else we would have never found it..we would have just ""beat him half to death"" due to disciplines trying to overcome a physiological doubt he has received more than a fair share of spankings.
I am not going to go through the 3 hour convo we had over all that our fam has expereinced-two babies so close, Ben's job change, struggle with call to ministry, no sense of biblical community b/c of church home being 45 minutes away, no real feeling of belonging anywhere, my own illness, Ben's moving his office home..even as i list it -it seems small-no one has died, no one has anything life threatening..
Its just been hard, but who hasn't had hard times? Through about 3 months of talking about it, we have decided that it my not make any sense to anyone, and there are many unanswered questions, but we feel that our time in Athens is up. We are looking to put our house on the market. Yes we are aware that now is not a good time to sell. We are aware that we most likely won't be able to have a house this nice again (at least not for a long time).
God knew almost 2 years ago when we began going to CCK that they would be offering this class for men who struggle with call to ministry-we didn't. God knew that the church would be planting churches and need men who felt that call to be trained. I am not saying Ben is going to finish this class and go back to ministry full time-it may give him confirmation in the opposite way, we don't know where we could be in a year. So although the thought is to move to k'ville, we are wondering if it would be wise to buy a home if its possible we are in it such a short time..but then again it could be longer...
So PLEASE pray for us. Our thoughts are -if God's plan is for us to move-our home will sell and He will provide a place for us to live. Things may not be ideal, we may even have to live in apartments or with others, but we are content knowing that there are somethings more important than comfort. Our family needs biblical community and encouragement. We need support. We believe God is moving us away from Athens.
Until this post, this is not public knowledge. We just spoke with family about it today. So please don't just chatter on to others about this. I am still working, Ben is still working, we have absolutely NO IDEA what kind of time frame God will have all of this on. It could be another year before we actually sell or phyisically move our belongings..Only our BIG GOD knows..

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

I sat today digging through PILES of data for 1st and 2nd graders. I saw it over and over LOW in spelling, environmental awareness...i herd it from the special ed teachers as i talked with them...we need PARENTS who care....
Oh moms..most of you precious ones reading this are FABULOUS. Your little 3 and younger ones know more than a lot of kindergarteners. The call to be a good mom is only screaming at me as i work at this.
I have heard my mom preach more about motherhood than any other subject. I listen and watch her invest in young moms in her hometown. I saw her invest in a group of college girls who are now AMAZING mothers!! She not only trained my sis and i in the area of mother hood and wifehood, but countless others that she comes in contact with. She is truly a Priscilla, a Lois and Eunice...and i am so thankful. May i continue that legacy Mama..
And to you dear moms..i challenge you to talk about why you are such an intentional parent, to encourage your friends in this and to invest in someone younger than you who is not in this stage desire to be a godly wife who serves and loves her husband and a godly mother who sacrificially serves and loves her babies.
I am forever haunted by my friends statement to her own mother-mom-i never wanted 'all those nice things'-i wanted YOU...what are we giving our kids?
i will rend to lean on the side of life being about my kids too much instead of the more culturally common life being about me..But it is neither...its is about Christ and everything in my life should reflect that..