Sooo, i was thinking of how many women i knew who complained about their husbands, and how out of the average couple, its usually the guy complimenting the girl...how she is such a good cook, or how good looking she is etc..but RARELY rarely, do a hear a lady brag about her man..
I have a theory of why..most women believe they work twice as hard as their husbands, that they are not appreciated, that "its about time he HELPED me".. I tend to struggle with those things too, BUT i want to take this time to do what i do not do often enough...
My husband is grand. If you have ever been a stay at home mom, you know the feeling of being 'trapped by these four walls', you know what its like to go to church on Sunday and that be the first time you have left your house for months, other than to go to the grocery store...
One of the first things that drew my attention and my heart to Ben was (& still is) his humility! Two years ago he stepped down from a predictable salary position at a church because he needed to get his heart mended with the Father's. He started his own business and although he had a fabulous office space downtown in a great location, he brought his work home to save us $500 a month because we had a 'surprise' baby Knox. He has spent the last two years building his businesses and is more familiar with my stay at home mom world than any dad i know. He knows more about nap scheduling than the NASDAQ and is happier to read God's word than the Harvard Business review or the New York Times. He is the GREATEST helper to me, although that is my biblical calling. I feel it a constant challenge to keep up with helping him near the same amount he helps me. A lot of days he comes in for lunch and watches Knox while i put Brennan down. He often helps straighten the house after the kiddos are in bed, or read a book or color a picture with them. He helps get them in their chairs for dinner and plays with them while i clean up the mess afterward. Almost every night without fail he bathes them both.
Any of this is done ontop of a full day of scheduling photo shoots, editing photos, making appointments, designing or editing websites, & all that comes with owning and operating your own business. His background is not the usual work environment of ringing phones, air conditioners humming, assistants chattering..NOPE its babies crying or the washing machine acting up..maybe some screaming or the smoke detector.. He doesn't get encouragement or promotions anywhere other than heaven, and boy are they deserved. He is absolutely laying up his treasures in heaven. He is patient and kind with me after a long day with the boys, he listens to me with concern, and prays for me.
He is amazingly talented and gifted in A MILLION different ways..more about that tomorrow. If you know my man and you are reading this..you are probably nodding your head. And if you have a hubs out there that you forgot why you love him, take a sec and jot it down for him...he needs to hear it. Trust me..because most likely he feels like he works hard at a job that you know nothing about, that he is not appreciated and that he would enjoy some help from you in the areas he needs it most...so ask him what that is..
I say all of this to tell you that i am not a good encourager. I am working on that. And to say that the reason i have found that i do not encourage him more is because my thoughts are spent on myself and how someone needs to encourage me..